Your toddler isn't aggressive. They're out of words.
A 28-page plan that works out why the biting is happening, gives your child something faster than teeth to say it with, and hands you the exact email to send your daycare tomorrow morning.
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This is for you if any of these is true
- You've had the call, the incident report, or 'a quick chat' at pickup — more than once.
- You've tried time-outs, firm talks and 'we don't bite' and none of it changed anything.
- You're quietly terrified of losing your childcare place, because you can't work without it.
- You feel judged at pickup, and you've stopped mentioning it to other parents.
- Nobody has given you an actual plan — just a form to sign and a look.
Why this keeps happening
1. Biting isn't aggression. It's speed.
A two-year-old wants the red truck with total clarity — but can't turn that into words fast enough. Teeth are faster. Teeth work every time. That's the whole mechanism.
2. Most advice is aimed at the wrong child.
Four toddlers bite for four different reasons. Give the overwhelmed child the toy-sharing fix and nothing changes — and you conclude you've tried everything.
3. Centres rarely remove a child for the biting itself.
They remove when staff conclude nothing is changing. That belief is formed by what you send and say — which means you have far more control here than anyone has told you.
If your child bit because the room was too loud, being taken out of the room isn't a punishment — it's exactly what they wanted, delivered instantly. You've just taught the fastest escape route in the building.
Four reasons toddlers bite. Only one of them is yours.
The guide opens with a tick-box checklist that tells you which one you're dealing with in about ninety seconds.
This is the step almost every parent skips, and it's the reason 'we tried everything' is so common.
11 sections. No theory in any of them.
Tap any one to see what's in it.
1The Function Finder
A four-block tick-box checklist that tells you which of the four bites your child is actually doing — so you stop applying the wrong fix and calling it a failure.
2The Bite Map
A one-page log of what happened in the sixty seconds before each incident. It corrects your assumptions — and it's the single most persuasive thing you can put in front of a director.
3A strategy page for each of the four causes
What to change in the environment, and what to teach instead. Possession, overwhelm, sensory need and connection each get their own targeted page.
4Six replacement signals
And how to teach one in three days flat, so your child has something faster than teeth. You can't remove a tool without giving a better one.
5The 8-second response
The exact words for the moment it happens — short enough that your partner, your mother-in-law and every room leader can run the identical script. Consistency beats brilliance here.
6The seven things that make it worse
Including the one almost every parent does at pickup, and the question you should never ask a two-year-old after an incident.
7The email that buys you time
Word for word, sent within 24 hours of an incident. It is not an apology — an apology is the wrong document. This one demonstrates a plan already in motion.
8The meeting script
What to open with, the one small ask that actually gets agreed to, and the three sentences that quietly cost parents their place.
9The accommodation menu
Eight low-cost things to ask the centre for, matched to your cause. Low-cost is the point — those are the ones that get a yes.
10The free evaluation route
Every US state runs a publicly funded developmental assessment. No doctor's referral, no centre permission, free regardless of income or insurance. Most parents have never been told it exists.
11The 14-day plan, tracker and fridge sheet
One thing per day, in order. Plus a two-week tracker and a one-page summary to cut out and stick on the fridge.
Six real pages, exactly as they print
Not mock-ups and not a contents list — these are six of the twenty-eight pages. Tap any one to read it full size.
Tap to read
The Function Finder
Tap to read
The email that buys you time
Tap to read
The fridge sheet
The Function Finder
The email that buys you time
The fridge sheet
Unretouched. The other twenty-two pages are the same kind of thing.
You are not the only one
Private and community childcare centres remove children at more than thirteen times the rate of K-12 schools.
Of infant and toddler centres in one state reported at least one expulsion in the past year.
Children are estimated to be removed from early childhood settings every year in the US.
Figures from published early-childhood expulsion research. This is a common, well-documented situation — not a reflection on you or your child.
Who this is — and isn't — for
- Your child is roughly 1 to 4
- You've had a warning, a report, or a chat
- You've tried time-outs and talks already
- You want a plan tonight, not a waiting list
- You want a diagnosis — this isn't one
- Your child is losing skills they had
- Your child is hurting themselves
- You want someone else to do it for you
If anything in the right-hand column applies, please talk to your paediatrician. The guide shows you how to access a free state evaluation either way — start that in parallel, not instead.
Keep the Spot
A parent's field guide to toddler biting, ages 1–4
One 28-page PDF. No subscription, no login, no upsell on the next screen.
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90 days to change your mind.
Work the 14-day plan. If nothing changes, email me and I'll refund you in full — any time in the next 90 days. You won't be asked to prove anything or justify anything, and you keep the guide either way.
Fair questions
Are you a child psychologist?
No, and I don't pretend to be. I went through the research on why toddlers bite — including work on what actually drives childcare expulsion decisions — and turned it into the plan nobody hands you. If you need clinical help, the guide shows you the free route to it.
Isn't all of this free on the internet?
Most of the behaviour advice, yes — scattered across forums, contradictory, and not sorted by cause. What isn't free anywhere is the part about the centre: the email, the meeting script, and the one ask that gets agreed to. That's half the guide.
How fast does it work?
Most families see the first drop in frequency in 4 to 7 days, and a real change by day 14. Biting that's gone on for months takes longer than biting that started three weeks ago. There's a troubleshooting page for exactly that, and it's honest about when a guide isn't enough.
We've already had a final warning. Is it too late?
Start with page 21 — the email you send within 24 hours of an incident. It isn't an apology. It demonstrates a plan already in motion, which is the thing that moves a family out of the 'not taking it seriously' category in the staff's minds.
My child has a diagnosis. Will this still help?
The strategies are about what happens before and after the behaviour, so most of it still applies. But it is not a substitute for specialist support, and the guide says so plainly. If you're already working with a professional, show them the Bite Map — they'll get more from two weeks of your observations than from an appointment's worth of recall.
What format is it, and how do I get it?
A 28-page PDF, emailed within about a minute of checkout. Read it on your phone tonight, or print the trackers and the fridge sheet. Yours forever, no subscription, no login.
What if it doesn't work for us?
Email me within 90 days and I'll refund you in full. No form, no justification, and you keep the guide. I'd rather you got your money back than felt stuck with something that didn't help.
Almost every child who bites at two isn't biting at four.
This is a phase with a mechanism — not a verdict on your child, or on you. You were handed a problem and no plan. That's the only part worth fixing tonight.
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Keep the Spot is practical support for typical toddler behaviour. It is not a medical or psychological assessment and does not diagnose anything. If you have concerns about your child's development, speak to your paediatrician — the guide explains how to access a free state evaluation.